Question: Is your cell-phone contact list arranged in alphabetical or importance order? You don’t have to reply just imagine what’s yours, and read the rest of the post.
Mine used to be like giving codes to the most important ones like family or close friends, and sometimes we set-up different ringtones/vibration mode to pre-identify who might calling, we even set silent mode for the least expected individual.
Well, that is all your choice, mine was too. But then I figured, it is the way we rank people from high importance to jack-asses, average guys in between. It is reflected in our daily life, we rank people, those who are nice to us will be labeled with stars (five stars, four stars, whatever, depending on the nice-o-meter), and those who are not so nice will also be labeled (I don’t know your preferred symbols to be exact, but not stars for sure). It comes by nature indeed, but not a good one, and I was finally realized, what I did was wrong…
‘Why would that be wrong? I didn’t do any harm to anyone? It’s personal!’ you might ask, and you are right, choices are yours to decide. But let me put it in a different way, imagine people rank you, you might not care, but most of us do, well I do. ‘Why does he/she reckon me as a dumb-ass, while I did all the work?’ you might question your colleague’s sour attitude towards you while you think that nothing is to be complaint about. That’s what I’m talking about, having label on people will set our mind to a certain mode. When we see those labeled as stars, we tend to be happier and positive, on the contrary when we meet the not-so-nice labeled person, we are uproariously agitated and negative.
We rank our colleagues, our superiors, our sub-ordinates, our friends and families, our clients and our customers. We put label on them and mark the mind notion that come before them to anticipate the expected. It’s alright for those labeled as positive person, we can handle them smoothly, but troubles come when we face the opposite.
Most of the time we value people based on experience, not on what those people would like to say, we set our mind to different direction first before the person even open a conversation. Prejudice is the most suitable word for such condition. And in the end the conversation will be tainted into a defensive and offensive situation instead of a constructive one. When it all becomes personal, healthy discussion will be the last and least expected.
Have you ever watched Forrest Gump movie? I bet you all have. The moral of the story is that we may not judge others based only what we see on the surface or because other people says so. Kid Forrest was physically-disabled and mentally-retarded, the story goes… he still retarded, but on one occasion he was identified to have the potential as an athlete, that win super bowl trophies, war hero in Vietnam, ping pong champion, an finally led him to be the richest guy in Mobile, Alabama.
See the positive beyond, because when we consider one with negativity at one area, they must have absolute positivity at other area. Forrest for example is an idiot at one side of the brain but genius at the other half, it is called the individual balance which God word for saying ‘All men created equal’. Put everyday as a white blank piece of paper, with no ink from yesterdays, you’ll experience how things work out differently when you start to see the positive beyond.
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